Things that no one can teach you in life

You often get to hear "..learn from the people around you, be open to what they can teach you..", still there are so many things that no one teaches you or can teach you. I can give you many instances.

Were those moral value classes in your school able to teach you how to be good as a human? Were your parents able to bring that motivation inside you to do something that you never wanted?

Have anyone of your friends taught you how to flirt or how to be the king of romance just like SRK? Surely no one could!

Have you been taught the art of communication? You may have mastered communication in your high school or college but when it comes to propose a girl, you still get afraid with the idea of being slapped in return.

Have they taught you how to judge people correctly? A 'somebody' in your life may prove to be a 'nobody' at the time of need. So you yourself learn to identify the traits of people around you.

These were some basic things which I pointed. Yet as we grow up to be an adult we learn many things by ourselves along the way that no school, or university, or parent can teach us. These lessons aren't the part of any class curriculum. They are taught between the lines, picked up through pain and faulty actions. Here are some lessons that only life can teach you by marching into it.

1. Who you are

Yes it has to be the first because it permeates every aspect of life. It takes the entire life span for the people to figure out who they actually are as a person or what they want from life. Everyone holds a different perception about you. Though no one can know you better than you. Just like our life, which never remains constant, so is our nature. With every step that we take in life, we meet with a new version of ourselves. Who you are is unique to you and to others, everytime. 

2. What's good for you

You can't leave on anyone to decide it for you. You have to choose what makes you happy. The best thing that you can do in life is follow your intuition. Take risks. Don't go for safe and easy choices just because you are afraid of what they might say. No one can choose where your happiness lies or what's good for you. You can't always be agreeable, that's how people take advantage of you.

3. What to dream

Your dream defines you. Follow your passion, follow your heart regardless of what others tell you to do. One of the greatest freedoms one can have is to peruse their dreams not caring about what everyone else thinks. After all at the end of the day it's you who has to live with your dream, not them. If you dare to dream, dare to have faith that things will fall at its right place, may be not in the way how you planned, but just how it meant to be.

4. How to get over those heartbreaks

When it comes to heartbreak, our parents and friends ideology doesn't help our awkward dating issues. Nevertheless, we can learn and grow from our experiences, for we alone have to come out of that bad phase of our life. No guidance from our peers can lessen the pain. However some of them could help avoid common mistakes that are bound to occur in dating and relationships.

5. How to think wisely

Thinking is an art. We need to be equipped with the ability to think wisely through scenarios and situations which inevitably arise in our lives. No parent or teacher teach how to think; even in maths, formulas are memorised. No basic understanding of formula's formation or what it is solving for or what are the real scenarios it's applicable to, are given to the students. Too often students are taught to follow the masses or follow the idea, that is already prevailing.

6. How to handle life's mess 

At some point in life everyone finds themselves in a sorry plight. And this is the harsh reality that no family or love can fix the problems. You can only get console but you have to pass through those streets alone. No one will walk in favour of you. You alone have to cope up with the ups and downs life brings. Everything eventually finds peace.

7. How to control our emotions

Emotions are the most beautiful element of our being which can solely set us apart from others. It takes a lot of patience to master our emotions. Actions taken under extreme emotions are bound to work against us. You learn to control it by yourself. No teacher teaches you. 

Everyone learns such lessons through their individual experiences. Certain lessons life teaches us, we gain wisdom through our experiences and how we evolve out of situations. Think about all the things you would love to tell yourself if you could travel back in time to give your younger self some advice about life. What has life taught you so far? Share your experiences! 

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